• Renée

Self-Awareness: The Best Kind Of Discovery

During sessions with my clients, I’m a watchman.


What I’m watching for isn’t overt. Quite possible to miss, if you don’t know what to look for.

Small flickers of light in the eyes. A warmth and softening in the face. Slower, deeper breaths.

And sometimes, my favourite: a mouth that broadens and beams out a smile that fills the whole room.


There’s something beautiful about beholding self-awareness. There’s beauty in witnessing people understand themselves better.


A wise man once said that we should cry out for insight and understanding. We should seek them like hidden treasure.


To cry out is to insist. To demand. To even be desperate for.


Perhaps desperation comes more easily when we believe that there’s treasure to be found.


Have you ever considered learning about yourself from this perspective?


We were made to learn. Much of our learning is directed towards the world around us. This is necessary, and wonderful. But it wasn’t intended to exclude or negate learning about our internal world.

And the thing is, how we experience our external world is significantly influenced by our internal world.


Put another way: People do life better when they understand themselves.


Many people permit unhelpful thinking patterns, out-of-control emotions and dysfunctional behaviours to rule their lives because they haven’t ever paid attention to understanding the ways they think and feel.


Maybe they didn’t know they could.


Or, maybe they are afraid of what they might find. Treasure? Not likely.


Most of us are more cluttered than we realise. Learning about ourselves means learning about our weaknesses.


But I think it’s possible for clutter and treasure to co-exist. Because learning about ourselves also means learning about our strengths.


And just maybe it’s only through de-cluttering that treasure is revealed.